Discussing whānau values, Joan Metge once wrote: “Another value of great importance is that of kotahitanga – oneness or unity. To achieve this whānau members must be prepared to invest time and energy in getting to know each other, to work through differences in lengthy discussions aimed at achieving consensus, to keep whānau matters confidential from outsiders and to stand loyally by each other in disputes with outsiders.
Kotahitanga also means accepting responsibility for each other’s actions, acting to prevent or control damage and if need be helping to make reparation to outsiders in order to restore the whānau’s mana.” (p.102)
Ref: Joan Metge (1995) New Growth From Old: The Whanau in the Modern World. Victoria University Press: Wellington